How To Make A Platonic Relationship Work Without An Emotional Mess?
Let’s say that a man and a woman are friends and they have known each other for a while and “nothing” has ever happened between them. The chemistry between them is palpable and they’ve been in situations where either of them could have made a move but did not. It is so because apparently, they both have pure intentions.
For example, he thinks that she is sexy and has always wanted to take her out, get an inch closer to her on the couch but is still not doing it. Why? Is it because the girl has made it clear that she’s not on the lookout for a sexual relationship? Even if the guy understands her feelings, wouldn’t it be unfair for the guy to get friend zoned because he cannot leave her voluntarily? How can we not expect an emotional mess up in such cases? It is so going to happen.
Then what exactly is a platonic relationship? Can we call it a “romantic friendship”? Can that even be a relationship? Either you are friends with someone, or you are romantically involved with them. You cannot eat the cake and keep it too, right?
The term might have made a place in the urban dictionary, but our minds are still confused with the very concept. It’s been said that a platonic relationship is a one that is devoid of any romantic or sexual desires. A “romantic friendship” is a close and intimate affair which lacks sexual partnership. It involves cuddling, touching, hand holding but not having sexual intercourse.
In simple words, it’s a total NO-NO from our side!
A confused relationship status is bound to mess you up emotionally. Although, there is always a BUT in such situations. In the world we breathe in these days, there is an abundance of alternate options when it comes to being with someone.
Well, we are not sure if this works, but you can always try and explore. Life’s too short to over think after all.
#1. A Lot Can Happen Over A Coffee
Unless you and your ‘platonic friend or cuddle buddy” are not romantically or sexually attracted to someone else, there is always a possibility that you smell something brewing. A platonic relationship is a risky setup, and there are always chances of either or both the people involved to invest more than expected. Trust us, a cup of coffee is enough to make you fall for her.
#2. Swear By The Ground Rules
A platonic relationship calls for ground rules. Whenever you plan to involve yourself in a confused relationship, it is better that you write down the ground rules. There are no fixed rules; one can create them according to their relationship. It is better to clear out the “kind” of friendship that the two of you want to share; is it the one where you just stick to being casual friends or something that is more than friends and less than lovers.
#3. Trust Your Decisions
If you have made the decision, then better show some trust in it. Put aside all the possibilities and just enjoy the relationship. You are responsible for your decisions, do not let societal or peer pressure ruin your moments. Getting into a platonic relationship was your decision, now better stick to it. Believe in it for what it is and trust both of you to fulfill the platonic compact.
#4. Look Into The Benefits Of A Platonic Relationship
It is always helpful to think about the positive aspects of something to hold yourself to it. Just think about the benefits that you gain by staying in a platonic relationship, it’ll help you resist from falling into the pool of romance. Some of the benefits of platonic relationship are:
#1. You get to share a lot together at a spiritual and emotional level
#2. You aren’t plagued by the romantic love and sexual relations
#3. You get to stay away from doubts, jealousies, and complications
#4. You can learn about one another in a safe and resounding manner
#5. You will always have someone you can go to for genuine, fearless, and forthright advice
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Originally Published: AskOpinion.com
